Why Do We Feel Like We Need Relationships to be Happy?
The 5 (And Only 5) Reasons You Haven’t Found Love Yet
“I didn't know that I wanted a relationship until all of my roommates were in one,” says Tyler, a sophomore at the University of Florida. “When I'd see them with their girlfriends, I'd always be like, 'Aw, that's so nice. I want to spend time with someone like that.'” Tyler says that it gets really lonely for guys when all they do is hang. 13 Oct So why do you want this someone so badly? And then the raw, scary, familiar answer came: I want to belong in the consensus society we live in. Most of my friends' plans are now centered around couples and children and so are the conversations, I feel left out. I feel irrelevant. I don't want to end up alone. 10 Oct If you tune inside and honestly ask yourself why you want a relationship, and you find yourself on the first list rather than on the second, do not despair. You can learn how to love yourself and fill yourself with love so that you have plenty of love to share with a partner. It's important to realize that we attract.
But is all of that really true? Here at HC, we think that the stereotype that all college guys are looking for random hook-ups is a giant misconception. To bust that myth, we talked to guys all over the country to find out the exact reasons why they want to be in a relationship for real! I want to spend time with someone like that. Tyler says that it gets really lonely for guys when all they do is hang out with their friends or by themselves.
Why Do So Many People Want To Be in a Relationship?
He says that the companionship of a significant other, someone you can spend all the time in the world with, is really important to him. Jake, a junior at the University of New Hampshire, says that this balancing act is only fulfilling to a certain point. At a certain point, guys want to do the caring.
You know that guy who always seems to have a girlfriend? And those girlfriends always seem to be long-term?
For some guys, being in a relationship just seems like the only option, the only thing that feels right. Things like that always seem to lead to relationships for me. Chivalry is not dead, collegiettes!
Why I'm NOT In A Relationship
DUHand a lot of guys realize that if they enjoy talking to her and knowing her, and she feels the same, he should ask her to be his girlfriend. Some guys are just raised to be gentlemen not playboys and to want this sweet kind of relationship with women.
I would also add you may be too immature for a real relationship. I'm willing to admit that there are people who are lonely and don't want to be single, but have adjusted to the lifestyle so well that they find it hard to change. Girls not all girls put on a show you can say to get man to notice them, fake hair, nales, taller heals, make-up, and so on for one reason.
These are the kinds of guys we hear about in movies, huh? The ones who open the car door for you, pay on the first date Why Do I Want A Relationship So Badly truly embody the chivalrous gentleman. You know how we all value chemistry when we go on a date with someone? Guys value relationships for the same reason…except instead of really wanting to click during conversations, they want to click when hooking up, too.
This is definitely something guys value in their relationships. All of this may come as a bit of a surprise. For a lot of guys, even the biggest of playboys, all it takes is one person to change everything. And then I met my girlfriend.
She and I had a mutual friend, so we hung around a little bit, and then I was done. Now the challenge is just spotting the ones who do want a relationship!
These are merely some of the consequences of being in a relationship. Everyone has a certain ingrained filter system. How are you going to take care of said family? I am attracted to women, I know I want to be with a woman, I have been with several women but many times I feel there is something wrong with my internal wiring that my body just does not react like others to the prospect of dating, or flirting, or the need to be dating someone.
Sara no 'h' Heath is a senior history major at the itty bitty Assumption College located in Worcester, Massachusetts. Sara started writing for Her Campus in the summer of and works as the assistant editor-in-chief to Assumption's student-run newspaper Le Provocateur.
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