How Do You Deal With Painful Truths? Left vs. Right #4
Strokoff et al () argue that hookups “may serve as developmentally appropriate ways for young adults to experience sexual pleasure and exhibit sexual agency” (p. 53). Rupp et al () argue that their What happens when you've come of age in the age of Tinder? Will people ever be satisfied with a sexual or even. 18 Feb Tinder is "stupid and harmful because it only makes romantic human connection harder." It is also "a factory and There's something really comforting to know that, in fact, there are actually tons of people out there who are age-appropriate and are looking for the same thing you are. Because much of the. 16 May Romance may be lacking among college students these days, replaced with quick "hookups," a new book argues. "Although we tend to associate hookups with college students, people of all ages are doing it," says Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Harvard researcher. "Many men and women.
As fall turns to winter, the temptation to find a certain someone to cozy up with during the frosty months gets ever stronger.
Strongly implied in this analysis was the notion that in the shift toward sexual freedom, women end up losing out.
If this is indeed the case, and a culture of casual sex is all about men getting what they want at the expense of their female partners, then surely even a temporary switch toward monogamy works in favor of women.
And yet something in this argument rings hollow. Like online porn and sexting, hook-up culture seems to be something of a bogeyman set up to take the blame for our collective dissatisfaction with our current relationships.
Except that, according to Slate"Four out of 10 college students in America enter their senior year with zero-to-one sexual partners. The shift from dating to hooking up in college: Because same-sex relationships are naturally removed from the reproductive motive, it may be possible that part of the larger hookup culture is borrowed from sexual subcultures involving greater emphasis on the positive erotic.
Men not respecting women? Tinder must be at fault. Female sexual satisfaction taking a backseat to male orgasms? Running through all these discussions is the tendency to blame gender imbalances in the sex and dating sphere on superficial symptoms, rather than digging deeper in search of a more fundamental root cause.
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Even the most cursory examination proves such logic to be fatally flawed. Missing from this demonization of hook-up culture is a very crucial point. What we had before the Tinder era was not much better—at least in terms of respect for women.
Technology has forced us to become more efficient daters. Now, it seems like you do everything on your phone. This may, in some cases, point to fairly stable individual differences. Simon Spotlight Entertainment;
Though the spheres of sex and relationships are positioned as the domain of women, too often male desires set the tone. Whatever the dominant relationship model may be, women always seem to be the ones losing out. Women are taught to use sex as a tool to achieve social capital, rather than an end unto itself.
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